A Hand Up, Not a Hand Out

Behold the Nine Satanic Sins:

  1. Stupidity
  2. Pretentiousness
  3. Solipsism
  4. Self-deceit
  5. Herd Conformity
  6. Lack of Perspective
  7. Forgetfulness of Past Orthodoxies
  8. Counterproductive Pride
  9. Lack of Aesthetics

Clearly they are, for the most part, divorced from the infamous even “deadly” sins. I could espouse at length about each of them individually, at over time I am sure I will, however the purpose of this entry it to address the one sin that seems to be universal, the one that crosses the aisle, Pride specifically counterproductive pride.

There is is huge difference between having pride, taking pride in your work or yourself, and being prideful.

At the end of a hard day of work, you should be proud of the money you’ve earned, the work you have done, the accomplishment you have put your hands to.

You should be proud of your house, your home, your family and your friends.

You should most certainly be able to take pride in yourself, your aesthetics, your decisions and who you are each day when you crawl into bed.

It is when this pride begins to press onto others or becomes detrimental to yourself or those you care for. When we need help, even as self worshiping Satanists, we should be asking for help. As a human being we are social animals, we have networks and communities we can pull from to make things happen.

These are often financial, and asking for money can be the second worst feeling in the world, second only to having to explain to a child why there is not enough food. Or to have to choose between keeping the lights on, or the water running in their home. Or to sacrifice a lifelong dream simply for a financial hurdle.

I offer a hypothetical, if you are presented with a five hundred pound stone, a weight you know you cannot move alone, and yet you MUST move it, it must be done. Our pride will first try brute strength. We all test the weight and see if it is truly beyond out measure. Our pride will then try using tools or tricks we have learned, leverage or machinery. Ultimately though when these fail, we have two options: To break ourselves against the stone, or to ask for help from those that can assist in getting the stone moved.

We Satanist worship vital existence. As mentioned before, things like addiction and criminal activity are self destructive. We have no room for self destruction in our life, and counter productive pride is self destructive.

The weight that comes off will be two fold. First, having the stress of that stone moved is the immediate. The second is the knowledge that you have friends, family, a support network, that as a social animal will enrich our lives. That allows us to enjoy that vital existence we hold in such high esteem.

There is no shame in asking for help, save the shame for letting your dreams slip away, save it for when you have to explain to others why you live in squalor or lose your home because you were too proud to pick up the phone.

The other side of this lesson is if you don’t have anyone you can ask, or if your attempts to receive help go unanswered, you are against a wall of a different sort. It is then time to evaluate what you are getting from the relationships you have.

No relationship should be gauged solely by what you can get but if you are giving more than you receive, it is likely time for a sea change.

Pride is a powerful, valuable measure of your day to day worth in this world. If you have nothing to be proud of, it is likely time for a sea change.

Measure it carefully, but do not hold it higher than your basic needs to survive.

3 thoughts on “A Hand Up, Not a Hand Out

  1. I think that this fits in part with what I was saying before that it is so important that we as adults let our kids know of the resources they have. By going to them and saying, I am proud of you for standing on your own two feet. Anytime you need help, don’t hesitate to come to me.

    The flip side for me and the question I have for you is, what is your stance on the homeless and helping strangers. While I get humanitarianism, I find myself not interested in helping strangers. I want to see the benefits of my help. Maybe that is selfish of me but it is just how I feel. I would rather give a thousand dollars to my son’s best friend to help him with rent while he looks for a job than to give a dollar to a guy sleeping on a sidewalk.

    Thoughts?

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    1. Responsibility to the responsible.

      We don’t know the people on the street. While we may be sympathetic to their plight, ultimately they made the choices that got them there.

      Continuing to give money to vagrants or transients perpetuates the cycle.

      Be careful that you don’t culture bad habits into those around you. If your sons friends see you as a honey pot, then they might see themselves on the street one day when you are no longer willing or able to help.

      That said if you are in a position to help, and won’t sacrifice anything by doing so, helping those who enrich our lives can pay out in the long run.

      Charity, mercy, and grace are the greatest gifts humans can give and it should never be wasted on ingrates or those who will squander it.

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      1. Yeah you are absolutely right about being careful not to be taken advantage of. Part of my feelings in relation to respect is that I demand respect of those around me. I’m not a dick about it but I am selective in my friends because of it.

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